Discussion #3 & Final Wrap-Up: Flirting with Forty

Here it is Chicken Lit’ers, the third and final discussion on book #28, Flirting with Forty! Let’s see if we can answer these last few hand-picked questions from the reader guide:

  • The divorce of Jackie and Daniel upset the status quo of their circle of friends, and even those who remained by Jackie’s side disapprove of some of her life choices. In what ways could it be argued that the lack of support actually proves beneficial for Jackie?
  • Wanting more out of life is a key issue for Jackie. But the harder she fights the ordinary, the expected, the conventional, the deeper she runs into conflict with her family and her surroundings. Is she justified in her pursuit, or, as those around her seem to think, unreasonable or even unfair? Do you think that by the end of the book she has been successful?
  • Nic demands, “How are you ever going to get used to being
    single if you’re always running away?” Is there such a thing as a ‘proper’ single life? Does being a parent make spending time on your own, independent needs taboo?
  • Kai comments “Nothing lasts forever… eventually everything always ends.” What do you think he means? Does he change his mind during the course of the novel? How do you see this affecting his relationship with Jackie? Have you ever been in a situation where you had to let go because something beautiful had to end? How did you cope with it and learn to move on?
  • Rating alert: On a scale from 1 to 10 (1=worst book ever, 10=most amazing), what do you give Flirting with Forty? Are you interested in watching the book in movie form on Lifetime?

Bring on your comments, opinions, ideas… or whatever you have to say!

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3 Responses to Discussion #3 & Final Wrap-Up: Flirting with Forty

  1. @all – I’ll be posting my comments in the morning. Can’t wait to see yours!

  2. * The divorce of Jackie and Daniel upset the status quo of their circle of friends, and even those who remained by Jackie’s side disapprove of some of her life choices. In what ways could it be argued that the lack of support actually proves beneficial for Jackie?
    Jackie is realizing that she is an adult woman who reports to no one, including her married friends. Their disapproval of the happiness she found in Hawaii with Kai seems to make her hold on that much tighter to the relationship with him. Plus, she no longer fits into the whole married-in-Seattle mold, but does feel more at home as a single-and-independent-in-Hawaii. She needs to be surrounded by those who make her feel welcomed and supported.

    * Wanting more out of life is a key issue for Jackie. But the harder she fights the ordinary, the expected, the conventional, the deeper she runs into conflict with her family and her surroundings. Is she justified in her pursuit, or, as those around her seem to think, unreasonable or even unfair? Do you think that by the end of the book she has been successful?
    Yes, she’s justified in her pursuit, because going along with the “ordinary, expected, conventional”eventually lead to divorce in her life to begin with, and she no longer seems to find enjoyment in the typical scheme of things. By the end of the book she learned that the reason her friends were against her relationship with Kai was due to jealousy, but then they eventually supported her in time of need. As it turned out, mending her friendships and maintaining ties with Kai worked out in her favor, however unconventional.

    * Nic demands, “How are you ever going to get used to being single if you’re always running away?” Is there such a thing as a ‘proper’ single life? Does being a parent make spending time on your own, independent needs taboo?
    Yes, I do believe a ‘proper’ single life means not being all about me, especially when children are involved. A parent, single or married, should look out for the needs of the children first by providing a stable and nurturing home. Flying off to tropical islands and leaving kids with a sitter or ex-spouse every few months doesn’t fit the bill.

    * Kai comments “Nothing lasts forever… eventually everything always ends.” What do you think he means? Does he change his mind during the course of the novel? How do you see this affecting his relationship with Jackie? Have you ever been in a situation where you had to let go because something beautiful had to end? How did you cope with it and learn to move on?
    I think Kai is referring the Jackie’s adventure in Hawaii, meaning that she’ll get her thrill and then it will be over between them. But in the end, he changes his mind and the relationship continues beyond Hawaii. Yay for them! Yes, I had to let go of beautiful Italy after visiting in 2003, only to return again in 2004. The experience was so amazing (Venice, Rome, Vatican City) that I kept wanting to go back, but then realized it wasn’t practical to spend so much time and $ flying across the ocean every year. Although, I can’t say that I’ve ‘moved on’, because the dream of returning again isn’t completely gone for me. Where exactly? Fontana di Trevi in Rome w/hubs. 🙂

    * Rating alert: On a scale from 1 to 10 (1=worst book ever, 10=most amazing), what do you give Flirting with Forty? Are you interested in watching the book in movie form on Lifetime?
    I LOVED THIS BOOK! Rating: 10 – and now I absolutely must see the movie.

  3. maksbestfriend says:

    * The divorce of Jackie and Daniel upset the status quo of their circle of friends, and even those who remained by Jackie’s side disapprove of some of her life choices. In what ways could it be argued that the lack of support actually proves beneficial for Jackie?

    I think that she learned that her world did not revolve around the approval of others. She had to start doing things in life to make herself happy. If not now, when? She had to learn to find her voice, and her inner strength and learn to stand up for herself and to those people who are her friends. Too bad she still hasn’t done it with Daniel.

    * Wanting more out of life is a key issue for Jackie. But the harder she fights the ordinary, the expected, the conventional, the deeper she runs into conflict with her family and her surroundings. Is she justified in her pursuit, or, as those around her seem to think, unreasonable or even unfair? Do you think that by the end of the book she has been successful?

    Yes, because I think to do less, would make her fake, not true to who she is. I think to do less would be showing her children that they have to settle for living an unhappy, unfulfilled life. I am glad that she got out of her shell. I think that when push come to shove, and when she learned that she was pregnant, her friends dropped their attitudes and started looking beyond themselves and their closed off lives and got real.

    * Nic demands, “How are you ever going to get used to being
    single if you’re always running away?” Is there such a thing as a ‘proper’ single life? Does being a parent make spending time on your own, independent needs taboo?

    I am sure that she made mistakes, but what single parent hasn’t. I think that Daniel reacted badly to her and his actions bordered on the abusive. I think that Nic, though well meaning, should worry about her own life before judging Jackie. But that is just me. I think that the message came through with the accident that she had to change the way that she was living, but that could have happened had she been working at a clients home, too. Life is never easy, and often messy. She was just finding her footing. I wonder if Daniel was as proper?

    * Kai comments “Nothing lasts forever… eventually everything always ends.” What do you think he means? Does he change his mind during the course of the novel? How do you see this affecting his relationship with Jackie? Have you ever been in a situation where you had to let go because something beautiful had to end? How did you cope with it and learn to move on?

    I think that Kai has come to the realization that he has to be more open in what he thinks of Jackie and her life. Will he meet her children? What happens if he runs into Daniel? Follow up novel there? Thing for me to let go should be Hawaii, I have been every two years since Mitch and I got married, and we are going back in a few days. Yes it is pricey, but it is some place that I really love and a part of my heart is there. I really would love to retire there. Something about me changes when I am there. I am just more me, if that makes any sense. I am accepted for me there on levels that I am not here. I love the laid back attitudes, and the warmth!

    * Rating alert: On a scale from 1 to 10 (1=worst book ever, 10=most amazing), what do you give Flirting with Forty? Are you interested in watching the book in movie form on Lifetime? I give this book a solid 10!!! I would watch the movie, but I wonder if they would cut the book up to fit in a 2 hour or less movie.

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