Discussion #2: Love the One You’re With

Finally, here we go with discussion #2 of Love the One You’re With over chapters 12 through 24. And since I’m on borrowed time while visiting my Mom who is recovering from surgery, the discussion is completely up for grabs.

What are your thoughts up to this point? Do you see changes in the wind for Ellen & Andy? Post away!


6 Responses to Discussion #2: Love the One You’re With

  1. maksbestfriend says:

    I think that Andy is settled into his life in Atlanta and Ellen is so not liking being the little wifey that does nothing but organize and watch Oprah and take photos of the blue bloods that surround her. She is really unhappy. And now her relationship with his sister is even on the fritz now that she is friends with her high school bff again. Like a fish out of water. But no one divorces in that family, what will she do? Rebel?

  2. @maksbestfriend – Mom and I went to Santa Fe for some shopping this afternoon, so I’m just finishing ch 23. Though, I do agree with everything you posted… and Leo in NYC is looking that much closer to becoming the realistic choice for Ellen. How unfortunate that Ellen has to endure her unhappy experience in Atlanta w/Andy, yet perhaps it’s the best way for her to see the truth in her feelings/instincts.

    I’m so sad for Ellen. This is definitely NOT a book to read if you’re looking for an uplifting experience – so far, anyway. But maybe there will be a happy ending after all is said and done.

  3. maksbestfriend says:

    I wonder if she saw Andy as the safe, reliable, rich, choice. She wouldn’t have to try. Someone who would put her on a pedestal. Which he did when they were in NY. He lived her dreams. Now that they are in Atlanta, he is living his dreams, and she isn’t nearly as supportive. She can do her photography if she wanted, but she sounds like she would rather pout and act petulant. Almost like an excuse for her to turn to Leo. Make Andy the blame for her choices.

  4. @maksbestfriend – That could all be true, and I definitely see a maturity factor involved here. Had they been together longer as a married couple, I don’t think Ellen would be questioning her original decision to be with Andy. Her thinking seems to be exactly like that of a 20-something and not as an adult married woman. If only she could get past it – I’d like to see a happy ending with Andy and not Leo. He’s too wishy-washy and immature.

  5. maksbestfriend says:

    Agreed. I think that he has not cut the apron strings with his family. I know that families are close and all, but to live within walking distance of each other and be so intimately involved all the time. That would be daunting. I think that the money that Andy grew up with and the coddling of his parents, he doesn’t really feel like he has to try at his marriage. As it is something that is just a given.

  6. Dory says:

    *What are your thoughts up to this point? Do you see changes in the wind for Ellen & Andy?
    I think after the Drake photo shoot and the flight home – Ellen rushed to make a decision to move. She agreed to what Andy wanted to do, for the wrong reasons. I think she knew that moving would mean she’d be forced to NOT see Leo anymore…. something she wasn’t sure she’d be able to do if he was in close proximity. But then, once in Atlanta, when life calmed down from the craziness of a big move – reality hit. What was she doing there? No big photo shoots, lots of mindless tv, and southern snobbery… I think it’s all leading to a big bad reality check.

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